Success Life with NLP
If you focus on what you want in your life, you start to notice more opportunities that support you. The more you focus on them, the more energy you will put into them and the more you will see them because you have opened your awareness.
Knowing who you are is an essential part of successful living. Think of the people you know who truly know who they are and are comfortable with themselves. An all important question to ask yourself is: Who am I when the lights are off? If your answer is different to when the lights are on, or when you are working, when you are with your family, when you are with friends or when you are alone, then you will have some misalignment on one of the different levels.
For many people, they know what they don't want and often struggle with what they do want. The unconscious mind doesn't know the difference between what is real, and what is imagined - that's why our dreams often seem so real. The more we mentally rehearse, the better our results.
Think of something that is mildly upsetting for you, some sort of negative emotion, perhaps you were stuck in traffic, or there was something on the news this morning that made you feel a bit grumpy. Slump over like your 'down in the dumps' and think about that for just a moment.
There's a wonderful quick tool in NLP called 'The Circle of Excellence'. Imagine you have a circle in front of you - it's your imagination at work here and you can imagine your circle to be just as you want it - perfect for you. A client of mine has his circle like the circle that's created on Star Trek when Scotty beams up the crew. Whatever your mind brings up for you will be just perfect. You can make your circle into anything you want.
In your circle you can add any positive emotion you choose. I want you to think of the first emotion you would like in there. I'll take confidence as an example. Before you step into your circle with the feelings of confidence, think of a specific time you felt confident. When you have a time, go back to that time in your mind and see what you see, hear what you hear and really feel what it's like to feel confident again now.
As the emotion reaches a high, just step into your circle and imagine turning up those feelings. Really allow yourself to re-live those feelings and just before the emotion drops away (usually around 5 to 15 seconds), step out of your circle and make yourself aware of your current surroundings. You can repeat this process with another specific time you felt this emotion, and you can even put similar emotions in with it. Keep this strategy up your sleeve next time you have to do something you feel nervous about.
About the Author:
Ben Tien has been writing about NLP Language Patterns for many years. He is the educator of personal development with a strong focus on effective communication. Learn more about NLP in the author blog: NLP Way